We are born to change!
We are born to not stay small!
We are born as infinite, expansive, and evolving human beings!
‘Life throws you curve balls’ is a point I would like to challenge.
At times in life when we are faced with challenging situations that require resilience, adversity, belief and change, sometimes we can resist these situations. And the more of what we resist is the more of what will persist.
Think of an exercise session, initially when we come into a movement/stretch, our instant reaction can be to tighten up, stop our breathing and resist the stretch, squeezing our face as we do so. With the breath, when we can relax and slow this down, loosen our shoulders, soften the face, suddenly the body releases the physical tension and we find more space that we thought was not there before.
And in order to adapt to life’s changes, we must meet them with the same compassion and non-resistance.
At times, it’s a situation that may be tough, that may be challenging, that may be something we didn’t expect to happen, but it has happened. And what has happened is simply a lesson or memory of the past. When we resist what is happening, that is when our energy, health, and mind takes the weight of what we resist. At times I tell my clients, the most important weight to lose is not the weight on the physical body, but the weight that’s carried by a lack of self-belief, lack of self-compassion and a lack of faith.
So, what am I saying here? ‘When life throws you curve balls’, maybe it is throwing you into a direction and transition towards greater growth and freedom.
In order to grow, my own belief is, we need to feel and face what it is we resist most. And when we decide to let go of what’s not in our control, and trust in the unknown by stepping into the land of the unknown with courage, faith, compassion and belief, our world starts to change for the better. And when we decide to resist this, our world also changes, but only for the worse.
So, to adapt to life’s ever changes, ask better questions:
Do I feel I am the victim or the pioneer of my past?
What do I believe to be truest about the world?
Why is this happening to me? versus Why is this happening for me?
When will things change? versus How can I trust in the unknown more?
How can I be more of that kind of person? versus What would that person do and be on a daily basis?
Great things start to happen when we ask great questions that stem further than our current environment and situation.
Each and every one of us has the ability to create and live the life we dream, and that starts to become our reality when we can learn how to adapt to life’s ever changes.